Incredible Connection patterns
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Pattern 1 - a classic:) Also an important note, why patterns might not work on some women.
This is the most classic and legendary of SS patterns. Partly because it is one of the oldest and partly because it is the most appropriate to use as your first pattern after having had some fluff talk with the girl you just met.
A very important note on the IC pattern (and even patterning in general) - there are women that are NOT into the feelings/connections stuff at all. So what's wrong with them? Nothing, they are just into SEX and getting down with you! Yes, believe it or not, there are women like that, just waiting to be discovered. Of course, they are a minority, otherwise you wouldn't be reading all this:) But they do exist and it is important to notice them in time and not to keep them waiting while you're busy delivering your patterns and trying to make her feel wonderful etc. You could just be shutting her down. So although they are a rarity and an exception, keep your eyes open because you never know when you just might find a gem like that:)
In the words of Ross Jeffries (Ross Jeffries): "Not all women will respond to "connection" patterns. Some women who are already emotionally occupied, but sexually bored, or shut down emotionally, but open sexually or just don't believe relationships are possible will still be very receptive to a "body sensation" approach." This actually means, that she won't be much moved by your descriptions of "emotional connections" but will be entrhalled, once you include feelings of bodily sensations in you patterns. But most probably they'd actually prefer to feel those bodily sensations instead of imagining them, and that is your cue to go kino:) (See Kinaesthetics for more information)
Nevertheless, the "incredible connection" theme has an almost universal appeal for women, se here's the pattern:
"In fact... just standing here... talking with you... I have an intuition... that when you connect with someone... someone you really like... someone you're really attracted to who makes you feel that click… right there... you know that sense of just feeling totally drawn... like you've known this person forever... like you were meant to know them.... a big part of it is that recognition that you can RELAX and laugh with this person… can you feel _that_ (touch her and achor the feeling)... is maybe how it works?"
From here you could for example transition to the Falling in Love pattern.
Update. Madman: "The IC pattern is NOT a good pattern to introduce as the first pattern after some initial fluff talk. You must have established some sort of a connection first with some other patterns and only THEN can you help her realise through using the IC pattern that "yes, that's exactly how I feel right now!". Using the IC pattern won't establish a connection by itself. So the way to do it is this:
1) Initial fluff talk to establish some faint rapport
2) Patterns and tonality to establish deeper rapport. Take your time, don't hurry, slow down the tempo of the conversation, watch your tonality. She'll be feeling a lot by now, but she is probably confused as to the nature of her feelings, so its time for step 3.
3) IC pattern (or a modification of it) to help her realise that an incredible connection with YOU is exactly what she is feeling at the moment:)"
Falling in Love pattern
Pattern 2 - Incredible Connection mixed with a little Falling in Love.
Remember, this pattern will make HER feel an incredible connection with YOU. ASF:
"I recently just got out of a long relationship. I guess I'm not your average guy. I mean for me... I have to develop a mental relationship with someone before anything more will happen. I really have to "Connect" with someone first... I mean.... Have you ever been talking to someone and noticed that everything around you seemed to fade away? ...and as you listened more and more you began to focus more and more of your attention on him. Do you remember how that felt to truly start becoming attracted to someone? Maybe you remember feeling "butterflies" in your stomach? To become attracted to someone.... not only because of their physical appearance... but because of who they are... because as you listened to them, their true attitudes and beliefs became apparent to you. As you listened to what they had to say... you suddenly realised that this guy was truly unique. Finally, you had found your "MAN". Do you remember the last time this happened? Maybe, you felt a little scared or nervous at first because you were feeling such an incredible connection. Or maybe... you began to think about "What might happen in the near future?" How your heart would speed up as he began to move closer to you... How you would feel such an Amazing RUSH of energy as he held you tight in his arms... or how it would feel to have his lips Pressed against yours for the first time. Maybe the little girl inside you dreams about meeting a man like this at night... Maybe you think about what steps you would need to take to Hold On to this guy once you finally meet him? I mean... maybe it seems like I have gone off on a tangent here... but that is how I feel."
"Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time? (sp). Like maybe even though you only knew them for a short while . . it seemed like you had known them your whole life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them (point from her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers just drop away and melt and you just feel totally comfortable and at ease with them (sp). And its like maybe you were even able to (And you might find that you are able to) imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (sp) and looking back on today as having been the start of it? I just think that's the neatest think when a person can . . go inside and . . instantly recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that . . lets that connection take place with someone (point) . . with me, it usually takes a bit longer.
But when you really FEEL A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious, timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever...like you were meant to know them....and it's almost like YOU'RE LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE...like YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU...when you FEEL THAT...it all starts out as an actual physical click... a tug that takes place right...(raise your hand over your head, point your index finger, and then SLOWLY bring it down straight down the middle of her face, without touching her until you get to her solar plexus, just below her breasts)..THERE!(touch her solar plexus) Can you FEEL THAT(squeeze her hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can happen...NOW...WITH ME...I just find that's such a great feeling...isn't it?
I think it's so funny how some people can just do that and let it happen instantaneously (snap) because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening (a conversation), as you really listen to someone (pt), and you start to recognize those values and qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself with me that's when you can make that connection and really feel that growing bond.
But what I find really interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT CONNECTION, that warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there, then what can sometimes happen is a picture of this new person your connecting with will sneak itself right into that special location in YOUR MINE where one keeps a person they care deeply for, and that's how you know you're already starting to fall for this person. And sometimes during the course of the evening or maybe even during a simple conversation like this one you'll look up at that picture and as you continue to feel that attraction growing, its like that picture gets bigger and brighter. And that's how you know you really just want to be with this person and you're really READY to be swept off your feet. NOW the funny thing is, when you have that kind of connection with a new person (sp), maybe as you're snuggling in the sheets about to fall asleep, again (pop) up comes that picture of this person in that special special place and also maybe at some time during
the day like when you're stepping into the shower or you hear the sound of running water again it reminds you to see that picture so clearly in your mine."
From David Shade's online seduction log:
"You want to feel trust for this person because you know you really like this person, so you take the time to build the trust. Building trust takes being honest with each other while at the same time being independent. You want to be with someone who is communicative and shares their feelings freely. And you want to get to the point where you can almost know what they are thinking, like you could finish their sentences. You so much want to know what this person is feeling, and you want them to know what you are feeling. And then you get to the point where you almost want this person to feel the same feelings you are feeling. That is when it is really special."
Use this assuming that you've been talking to the girl about incredible connections before, but somehow things haven't yet quite turned out the way they should have:) But seriously, there are girls, for whom the patterns have a delayed effect, in which case this follow-up is just perfect for helping her realise what she feels and wants the next time you meet.
"You know the other day we were talking about how sometimes one can suddenly find themselves feeling really connected to someone.
Me, it happens rarely but when IT IS HAPPENING, I often find I wasn't aware of it until afterwards and you realize it was the start of something amazing. Something you'll always cherish for the rest of your life.
I mean sometimes a person can just be looking at someone and suddenly for whatever mysterious reason, feel a connection so powerfully taking place, a connection that just lets you know that this person is going to be really special in your life where you find yourself so easily imaging being with this person in that special way two people can be together who feel that growing attraction, but then sometimes you don't even NOTICE AND FEEL ITS TAKEN PLACE .. NOW WITH ME I find though that later when you LOOK BACK ON THE WONDERFUL, DELIGHTFUL THINGS THAT TOOK PLACE and suddenly you realize how ENCHANTED YOU FIND YOURSELF FEELING HMMMMM, its like you FALL UNDER A SPELL and you FEEL SWEPT OFF YOUR FEET and you loose your sense of time and space NOW, as if your ENTIRE WORLD IS THIS PERSON (IN FRONT OF YOU), like you're LOOKING/listening to your FUTURE as you just continue to LISTEN SO CAREFULLY.
And I think you may not FEEL THAT CONNECTION INSTANTEOUSLY, but even over short conversation like this one ... a person can find themselves starting to naturally realize that this person is someone who totally meets their criteria for someone you want to spend time with in that special way. In a way that makes you feel mmmm you know what I mean.
And you RECOGNIZE WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT that you really are looking forward to spending more time with this person and the more you allow yourself to feel this the more you begin to think of other things (point to your dick) that can be so delightful. And you begin to feel so safe and uninhibited so that you know its OK to just let yourself go and imagine having your fantasies really come true .. NOW WITH me thats how I sometimes SEE IT THAT WAY."
"Can I ask you a question, I know this may sound funny but, have you ever felt absolutely comfortable and at ease talking with someone (you just met)?
I mean, when . . that's happening, its like this (powerful, loving) connection is taking place between you and them (sp). And maybe you were even able to... imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still feeling that sense of connection and looking back on today as having been the start of it. And you might find you feel such a strong attraction that you aren't even aware of what you are doing since your mine doesn't want you to know what your body is doing until afterwards, and you can reflect on how wonderful and pleasurable the experience is and you are so glad you didn't miss out on anything."
"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone? Like maybe as you were there, looking at him, and you started to listen carefully, it was like his voice just seemed to wrap itself around you, to the point where the rest of you environment just disappeared, and you entire world, everything you saw, became what was right in front of you? And anything he described, you found that you could just picture it clearly? So you know, if he were to talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect partner, you could just see yourself there with him, just enjoying that, that's what it would be like"
"Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time? Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that you had known them your whole life, as if there
was a timeless connection between you and them?
I'm wondering as you are listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just how wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making us remember those things, right prior to discovering that we can experience those feelings again with someone.
Me well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or can allow that to happen, but you just begin to recognize now how much you want to be with someone who is so good for you. Words and appearances are only expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence that moves us. It can only happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people, but when it does, you just know that
feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers melt and drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence, mingling energies, building and increasing and intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that words can initiate but never capture fully.
It has to be indulged inside your imagination, dwelled on, and toyed with, deep, deep inside you. Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of connection, just how much can you look forward to enjoying that with someone who moves you in that way? As you remember what that would be like, and find those possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything else blurs into insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to be with someone in that special way and find out more about this person who has so moved you, with just words? As you might BEGIN TO RECOGNIZE NOW you want to meet with me, realize I can be reached at [...]."
"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's voice, that whenever you find yourself really listening, its like the warmth of that voice just starts to wrap itself around you, and spreads all through you, maybe to the point where you find yourself thinking about being with him in a mmmmmmm special way, in a way that would make you both feel mmmmm you know? You hear their voice in your mind maybe when you're falling asleep you get that feeling on the inside and you feel warm all over. So much so that as those pictures in your mind get bigger, and brighter and more intense, and those feelings mm intensify you could just experience an overwhelming desire, a desire to be with him to the point where you just had to be with him in that special way (pick up the phone, and invite him over)"
Remind her of all her feelings she has always wanted to share and what a wonderful experience it is to find someone to share all those feelings with. Not specifically an IC pattern, but related nevertheless, as you are creating a feeling in her of being so completely understood.
"Do you remember when you were a little child and you went to bed expecting tomorrow to be a rainy stormy day? But you woke up the next morning and to your delight and surprise, you looked out to see a brightly shining sun, and not a cloud in the sky? And you realized, "Hey...this day is MINE to make happen?" Imagine sharing those feelings everyday with someone who truly understands, along with the passions only adults can create and share."
Incredible connection via greeting card or e-mail. Jonathan Ness, mindlist:
"Isn't it crazy (soften...soften...) how you meet somebody and you
just feel an instantaneous connection... With me, it's like a click
right in your stomach when you realize you're going to like and
trust this person for a long time. That's how I felt ("You go first"
principle...) when I met you at [where] [when]. I
confess (girls LOVE confessions...), I have been thinking about
you, wondering how much you have been thinking about me, too.
(not "whether" but "how much"!). How surprised would you be to
find yourself wishing you could spend some more time with me...
Right now, I can see us over coffee laughing and having the
best time. As you think about this more and more, I'm sure that
you can feel a smile coming to your face, realizing how much
fun we're going to have. Let's meet [where] [when] for
lunch, around noon, so we can get to know each other better.
Or, if Friday night would work better for you, give me a call
at [number] and we'll arrange the details."
Notice the tie-in with the Cialdani Reciprocation Principle. Kevin Kupal, mindlist:
"Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection with someone (point to
self), a guy who just makes you FEEL THAT CLICK, right there (click in
front of her chest). And when you do, I bet, that guy can just make
you FEEL SO WARM AND WONDERFUL, DEEP INSIDE YOU... make you FEEL such a
FANTASTIC DELIGHT, an INTENSE, DELICIOUS PLEASURE... inside YOUR
MINE... DEEP INSIDE YOU... just by being with him (point to self), just
by looking at him (she's looking at you, dummy). Now, I WONDER how you
WONDER how when you've found that guy (point to self), and FEEL ALL THE
DELIGHT he gives you, how will you give back to him some of the delight
that he makes you feel... how will you GIVE YOUR ALL to please and
delight him (point to self), even just an inkling of the delight he
gives to you? How good will you feel just by giving him back some of
the incredible delight he gives you? When you feel that the more you
please him, the more you exponentially please yourself?"
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