The perfect relationship
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A simple value-eliciting scheme (from an unknown source):
You: What's important to you in a relationship? A relationship, not qualities in a person...
Her: Well... x1
You: Yeah... that's really important to me too. How do you know when you
have x1?
Her: xxx (talking about x1).
You: I agree... that's a powerful one. Well, what else is important to you
in a relationship?
Her: x2
You: Yeah... xxx (talking about x2).
Her: xxx (talking about x2).
You: Wow...that would be great to be with someone like that. Well, what else is =
important to you in a relationship?
Her: x3
You: Yeah... xxx (talking about x3).
Her: xxx (talking about x3).
Step 2
You: Of those three values - x1, x2, x3 - which is the most important? Which
would you absolutely have to have?
Her: Well... xn (n being either 1, 2 or 3)
You: Well... I could see that. Of the other two, which is most important?
Her: xn (n being either 1, 2 or 3)
Step 3
About an hour+ later:
You: You know...I've been thinking that maybe we've really got the start of
something beautiful here. And I think it's something based on (x1, x2,
and x3 in order of her preference she provided in step 2).
She will go into a pleasure state, at the peak touch her and say:
You: Can you FEEL THAT would be a really wonderful thing to experience?
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