Reading the signs of a "committed" woman
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For starters - a story which at first glance only seems to illustrate the mistake of judging a girl by her words and not her actions. But after a more careful inspection, even those seemingly "rejecting" words of her are actually a complementary sign to her actions (the sign being - "I want you!":).
Mr Happy, ASF:
"Ok boys and girls, learn from Mr. Happy's mistake so that you don't fall for
I met this chick online and got her to agree to meet me to play some pool.
She was *really* hot. I also did a really good job of conveying
personality... I got in some good
negs, some humor, some teasing, it was very playful, and also some light
kino. (I know I did this right because she still messages me, etc so maybe
I'll get a chance to correct the FUCK UP that I made...read on.)
See the whole time she is talking about how she is a Christian, and she
works for Campus Ministries, and she has a FIANCE, and how they're not just
DATING, but they are COURTING and how special it is, blah blah. She also
says how busy she is because of school, and that if I'm going to see her,
it'll be on her terms (ha!) so at that point I thought, screw this, I have
better things to do with my time. She invited me to a mechanical engineer
(her major) party that friday and I turned her down.
She messages me a few days later and talks about how she got drunk and
stoned at the party and how she went home with some other student and got
her brains fucked out. She hopes she isn't pregnant, she doesn't intend to
tell her fiance, etc blah.
That could have been me in there! I will never spare a chick again:)"
Based on the story above, here are commentaries by Odious on what were/are the signs of a married or borefriended iow "committed" woman being interested in you. Odious, ASF:
"OK, having been with married women before, there are 3 key signs that
she's hot to trot and ready to step out.
1. She will "open up to you" and tell you what IS NOT happening with her
This goes for married women, women with boyfriends... all of them. She
will tell you flat out what it is she is missing and what she wants.
When she starts telling you how he's not cutting it, she's letting you
know that door is open. Now this woman did this, but it sounds like she
was being subtle about it. She said they were courting, not
dating... what the hell is that? I think that meant "we have a
commitment but he's not fucking me."
2. If she's interested, she'll create opportunities for the two of you to be alone
I had a woman who I didn't even realize was interested in me, come over
to my house to study and work on a paper... because her computer was on
the fritz. The thought that she was hot for me did not even cross my
mind until she started asking me my opinions on the meaning and value of
marriage iow "what would you think of a woman who cheated on her
husband... with you... right now!"
3. She knows when he'll be around or not, so she'll want to call the
shots as to when you see each other.
She obviously did that one. However, don't count yourself out just yet, because she is still giving you a subset of the first sign (which was - telling you what is _not_ happening with her man). She may tell you about other sexual exploits - if she cheated on him before, or if she cheated on an old boyfriend etc. So this woman is hitting all the signs. She's opened up to you, she's making time, she wants to call the shots as to when you get together, and now she's telling you she cheated. The next time you see her, or talk to her - act like you think her cheating is no big deal, that you respect it when women can go for what they want. I have also found an attack on the sexist nature of the whole idea of monogamy to be very effective:
"The whole idea of monogamy dates back to a time when women were treated
as property. Men ran the world and made all the rules. So men could
have mistresses and concubines, but if a woman cheated she was stoned to
death. It is completely sexist and hypocritical. I think you should
listen to your heart and your desires, and see where that leads you. To
me, that is the only way to go. Fulfill your desires, and seek
pleasure. With me, that's what's important. Pleasure is a gift, indulge
it and you become a more fulfilled and complete person." etc."
Update. NYC explains why "committed" women are actually quite easy both to approach and even get "very friendly" with:) NYC, ASF:
"Women that are "taken" are different from women that are
single in that they are either LESS PICKY or MORE HORNY. Single women are either looking for
more than just dick (MORE PICKY) or they have less of a sex-drive so they don't
REQUIRE a man in their lives unless he's just what they want.
A chick that is "taken" gives herself to her boyfriend so he can fuck her. Now the
pressure is on the guy to perform. Unless the guy is still HOT for the chick,
the sex is routine or most importantly... ORGASMLESS for the woman. When she
meets you, she feels that DESIRE to be with a man. She feels YOUR DESIRE to
please her and take your pleasure from her. It is that ROMANTIC kind of
interaction that she doesn't get from her "boyfriend" coming home, turning on
the TV, watching sports, feeling her up for a second (lack of foreplay is a
MAJOR turnoff) and fucking her until HE cums and falling asleep. As long as
she feels like she can get away with it and still have her hum-drum
relationship intact, she will fuck you. You would be surprised how many women
are "taken" but nowhere near SATISFIED! Ray Parker made the point that HBs are
NEVER without a man. They keep the one they have until they hook up something
new. Then they skip off, so if you are waiting for an HB to become SINGLE, you
can forget it!
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