Using negative commands to get a chick to do something
From the archives at Maniac High's Seduction Website: http://www.pickupguide.com This report is good because of the 'negative' commands yaritai tells the chick to 'not do' regarding the clothes. Cool! From: "yaritai" <yaritai@hotmail.com> Newsgroups: alt.seduction.fast Subject: Recovering A Rejected Kiss (field report) Date: Wed, 20 Dec 2000 15:59:58 +0900 Hi guys, I fucked up but looks like I recovered ok. Here's the story. THE PU Met chick at bar a couple of weeks ago. Fluff talk, plus I had social proof going on. Got PU'd by an 8.5 right in front of her (!). After HB8.5 leaves, I continue to talk to HBTall (6.5 - 7). She asks me if I have a girlfriend and I say "yeah, lots! you?" She says that she's envious and that she's got a bf. I ask her why she's envious, she doesn't really answer clearly, but basically says that it must be nice to associate with lots of different people. I ask her if her one bf is enough. She asserts that he is more than enough. I continue talking about other stuff. After a bit, she gets ready to leave, and I casually say "hey, would you like to see me again?" She responds, "yes". She gives me her number. GROUNDWORK I tell her that I'm going to make her dinner and to come to my place. She says that she wouldn't feel comfortable doing that, that it might be "dangerous" ;-). so I say ok, let's go out, I don't care. We go out for dinner, talk and set some future expectations that we will see each other again soon, by mentioning some things that we should do sometime/next time. After dinner, we go to Karaoke, but I fuck up and didn't get a chance to kiss her. Plus, she was being quite distant and cold and I didn't want to force the situation. After karaoke, we head home and I figure, that's ok, I'll get her next time. Tonight was flirtatious enough to generate interest. End of the night, when parting, I tell her that I will make dinner for her next time. She doesn't reject or agree to it. MORE GROUNDWORK Setting up the second "date". I'm still not sure I want her, exactly. Not sure if she's worth the effort, but she's a decent chick. I decide to do a bit of a takeaway and suggest we go out for dinner instead. Then come back to my place for desert. We go out for dinner, and come back. She's distant and really makes me feel like the last thing on her mind is romance. I've gotta make my move, but just as I'm about to, she says she must go home, it's late. This came as a surprise as it was only 10:30pm, and it violates my rule that you should kiss her on your first "date", but I have to work the next morning too, and I'm figuring I won't get laid tonight anyway, so I think that's fine. I knew we'd be seeing each other again, 'cause I can tell that she really likes me. Anyway, I use the abrupt ending to my advantage (or trying to recover, whichever way you look at it!) and tell her on the way to the train station, "see? I'm not dangerous. I'm not a little teenage boy that has no control over his sexuality." She seems actually IMPRESSED by this, and says that she was surprised that I hadn't tried to jump her. (See? She was expecting me to and therefore had her defences up.) OVERCOMING REJECTION During the week, set up a time for me to make her dinner. She tells me in her email not to "attack" her. I tell her that although I could resist the one time, I really don't know that I can resist again. I tell her that she can help me resist though, by not wearing a short skirt, not wearing any makeup, not putting on perfume, not washing her hair, no jewelry, etc. Then I definitely won't even WANT to go near her. Sends an email back saying that she will help me by not doing any of those things. She'll have no makeup, wear jeans, etc... (This is gold by the way.) Meet her and guess what? Of course, she's wearing a skirt, makeup, her hair is done nicely, jewelry, sexy boots, etc. I knew she'd do that. So, now I know she WANTS it, and I didn't even have to be an AFC to find out! (Reread the first paragraph if you doubt this.) Have dinner and at some point where our heads are very close together, I grab her chin and go for it. SHE MOVES AWAY AND SAYS 'DAME'!!! (Japanese lesson: "dame", "da" sounds like "do" in "dot", and "me" as in "met", means "bad/not right/wrong/no".) WTF????? Can't get her to kiss me. OK. That's fine, move on to enjoying the rest of the evening. Continue talking and in the middle of her sentence, I grab her hands and pull her towards me. She says "dame" again. Then I tell her it's not "dame" and that if she doesn't have to continue if she doesn't like it. That doesn't work. I then ask her why it's "dame" and she says "just because". Ok, so there's no specific reason. Great! I can work with this. Then I continue, but can't get her to kiss me, so I say "oh, I see, you feel guitly because of your boyfriend", to which she answers "yeah..." Me: So, are you engaged to him? Her: No! Me: Do you want to marry him? Her: No. Me: So, it's only guilt, because you WANT to kiss me, don't you? (Ha! I just got rejected 10 mintues ago!!!) Her: (softly) I don't know. DAME. Me: (pulling her closer, she's resisting a bit still) But I know you want to kiss me. That's how you FEEL, isn't it? Her: (softly) Don't know. Me: Tell me that you DON'T want to and I'll stop. (keep pulling her in) Her: mmm... Me: You're thinking too much. Stop thinking and FEEL what you WANT. (still resisting a bit) Her: mmm... Me: I know you want me. (NLP?) (very little resistance left) Her: mmm... Me: Do what you FEEL is right, not what you THINK is right... (stops resisting) Then we kiss and she reciprocates. She's into it. But she's still feeling guilty and stops. More of the same, in a nice low, sexy tone, talking about the fact that she WANTS me, but just feels guilty because of her bf... Resume kissing. Do this a few times... By the end of the evening, she's attacking me, hands roaming, etc. FALLING SHORT In the end she didn't cave in because it's her time of the month, but we have set up to get together again in a couple of weeks (I'm busy during this time and can't meet her). There's no question about what will happen then, though I suppose it's possible that she changes her mind. Wait and see. One important note to remember is that at no time during the evening did I get upset over anything. Rejection is not always rejection. She had to put up some barriers to justify cheating on her bf. Take what you can from this if there is anything of value here folks! Feedback/comments? yaritai
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